“Thou mayest choose for thyself, for it is given unto thee” (Moses 3:17).
I have always held back on a lot of things, and this led to not doing anything for a long time. This was because I didn’t know I could choose what I wanted to do. It took a lot of time, research and people to make me realise that no what has happened, I am a product of choice, not my genes, my upbringing or even my environment. And even though my genes and upbringing influence me very powerfully, they do not determine.
A lot of us feel this way, especially in the midst of a situation. We forget to realise that we have a choice, n matter what situation, on how we respond. We live our lives to chance and that is why we are unsuccessful, so when we see other people that are successful we simply say that they are lucky. But what we fail to realise is that these people made a choice, they made choice to be successful, and they made a choice not to settle. A lot of people don’t know that they have a choice, or they have simply forgotten. In R. D. Laing’s word “The range of what we think and do is limited by what we fail to notice. And because we fail to notice that we fail to notice, there is little we can do to change; until we notice how failing to notice shapes our thoughts and deeds.” Until we realise that we have the freedom to choose we cannot begin to change.
Your power to choose the direction of your life allows you to reinvent yourself, to change you future, and to powerfully influence others. God gave us this gift, it is the one gift that enables all the other gifts to be used. It is the one gift that enables us to elevate our lives to higher levels. The freedom to choose means that we are not a product of how people see or treat us. We are self-determining through our choices.
“Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space lies our freedom and power to choose our response. In those choices lie our growth and happiness.” – From the 8th Habit.
No matter what has happened, is now happening, or will happen, there is a space between those things and our response to them. And that space represents our freedom to choose our response to any situation. It is true that most times we don’t have power over what happens to us, but we have the freedom to choice how we respond to it. One of such things are our upbringing, though we do not choose how we were brought up, we can choose how we respond to it. If come from a poor background, that doesn’t mean you will necessarily be poor. By using self-awareness and your will power, to learn, work and gain wisdom, you may avoid the chains of poverty that was rooted in your upbringing.
I challenge you to think deeply. Reflect on the fact that you have the freedom to choose your response to any situation. Let it be etched in the recess of your heart. Let the knowledge of your choice enlarge your response until the very nature of your response begin t change your situation. Remember, you create the world you live in whether by chance or by choice.